Call me an idealist, but...
[Stupidly long artist's comment ahead. Sorry.]Why can't we work out our differences? Why can't we work things out?Little people, why can't we all just get along?watch it - the actual speech starts around 1:15 ;]Mars Attacks!
is friggin awesome, and so's Jack Nicholson.
And he brings up a valid point.
Honestly, I am failing to see why this is so difficult.
This is a major problem, not only on DA, not only on the internet, but in the world as a whole.
I've wanted to make this stamp for a long time. Because this is a question I've been trying to answer for a long time.
It's sad. It really is. It's sad that I can't find an answer. It seems that people are more apt to fight each other and argue than they are to just accept differences and move on.
Opinions are great; they really are. But, honestly, people need to learn some humility, understanding, and, most importantly, restraint. Everyone thinks they are entitled to their opinion - and they are - but what they don't seem to grasp is that not everyone is entitled to voice their opinion. Not unless they can do so with respect to all parties of an argument, despite however "unpleasant" they view said opposing parties.
If you want people to respect you and your ideas, you have to show a little respect back. It doesn't matter how "right" you think you are; not everyone will have the same views as you, and - trust me - it is extremely hard to change someone's opinion. The easiest thing to do is have a friendly debate or not even bother.
For Christ's sake, be the bigger person and don't reply if it comes to a giant bitch fight. In the end, you'll feel better and more people will respect you and your opinion for it.
And don't go on and on "flaming" other people for no reason except "they all suck/are rude/are egocentric/are judgmental/etc". I have absolutely no respect whatsoever for flamers. It’s fine if you don’t like something, but you do not have to rant and pitch a bitch fight because of your hate. You do not have to go and look specifically for whatever you hate just so you can attack it. You do not have to publicly flaunt your hate. It is extremely sad and does not make you “cool” or “better” or “smarter.” It makes you look dumb and vile and pathetic. And one thing I’ve noticed is that quite a few flamers are hypocritical, narrow-minded, and base their views on stereotype.
I hate stereotyping. One of the few things I will honestly admit to going as far as utter loathing. I don't care how many Christians shove their belief down your throat, how many Americans are crass and obese, how many Atheists are depressed emo teenagers, how many Republicans are homophobic, elitist white men, how many Twilight fans are obsessed stupid little tweens, etc, etc. The funny thing about stereotypes - they generally make up a small amount of the population. However, they get the most notice because of their "bad attitudes" and idiotic displays, and therein lies the root of the problem.
And don’t you dare tell me that it is only “human” to fight. That is the laziest, most overused, pointless excuse in the bloody book. If it is so human to fight than we need to seriously rethink our species’s nature. It should NOT be human to want to fight someone simply because they think differently than you. It should NOT be human to think that you have the right to belittle someone and disrespect them because they believe something you happen to think idiotic. It should NOT be human to think that dismissing someone's worth as a fellow human being because of their differing opinions is, in any form, acceptable.
It boils down simply to this: if you can't think of a respectful way to voice your opinions or ideas, then save your time and don't voice them at all.And I can’t believe I have to add any of this, but I know some smartass will bring it up if I don't.
When I talk about opinions and getting along, I am focusing more on the crap that goes on between inconsequential differences in religion, political parties, tastes in books/movies/etc, ships (good god ship wars what is wrong with people?), cultures, lifestyles, and whatnot. I am not talking about murder, genocide, racism, etc.
There is a difference between being opinionated and being morally twisted.
I am leaving comments open. Even if I get a load of shit for something I’ve said, I’ll still leave them open – though I fail to see why someone would give me shit for wanting the world to be a friendlier place.
If you don’t like something I’ve said, then feel free to state your grievances in a mature manner. If you don’t, I will just ignore you and you will have wasted your own time.
Because, honestly, this entire artist’s comment is an opinion
and you will have just been, sadly, proving my point.edit .i
I want to add another thing about a trend I've noticed amongst stamps. There seem to be a lot of "hate" stamps around. "I support hating [subject]", "I hate [subject]", "[subject] sucks!", etc. Why? Why waste time making something to show your hate when you can spend time making something that supports what you actually like? Why waste so much time showing off your hate? Why do we have to all be so damn negative?
Honestly, I don't think the world needs to be all rainbows and kittens, but damn. Why don't we all try to be positive every once in a while?
Just something I've noticed, and am slightly uncomfortable seeing :/edit .ii
A reply to !KintarosTiger
made me think to add another "tidbit" about opinions and ethics: It should not matter if your are conversing with someone directly, face-to-face, or if you are on a computer and are conversing with typed words on a screen to a bunch of people you do not, in any way, possibly know and who, most likely, live very far from you. Computers and anonymity should not give you a fail-safe to act like an ass. The same ethics and etiquette you apply in any normal conversation apply on the internet. And if some of you - those who cuss out and flame and rant and bitch, etc - honestly talk like that when conversing directly to people, I have to wonder how you have never been properly slapped and put in your place.edit .iii
I seem to make a lot of edits, no?
Another comment on the abuse of the word "hate." Hate has become the new love. People slap it around like a limp herring. No, you do not hate Twilight or anime or Tarantino or rap or emos or math. You dislike
those things. You may strongly dislike them, but you do not hate them. Let me explain: I dislike American football, I dislike the Bourne books, I dislike algebra, and I dislike Windows. I hate stereotyping, I hate cancer, I hate hypocrisy, and I hate abuse of power (e.g. many of our current politicians).
Do you see a difference? I'll also mention that I greatly hate hate, and, yes, I realise that contradicts greatly with hate #3 ;]
I should also mention that there are always exceptions to nearly everything. Therefore, I understand that some people may, truly, hate math or Twilight or Tim Burton, etc. Those are, however, very rare cases and are usually because one of the above is indirectly associated with a traumatic and extremely unpleasant event (it can happen). Obviously, the above paragraph is directed to the overuse of "hate" without proper cause. Most people don't have the proper cause to actually hate something.edit .iv
I'm sure you all would love for me to shut up by this point. Sorry.
Another note about people's attitudes regarding other people's opinions of them. I hear the excuse "They can think whatever they want, because I don't give a damn because it's just the way I am and if they can't deal then that's their own damn problem" - or something similar that includes the phrase "don't care what they think." I agree that no one should base his or her character solely off other people. We should all find ourselves and realise who we are.
However, we cannot fully do that without outside help. Our understanding of our character is just as affected by other people's opinions of us as it is by our opinions of ourselves. We should all strive to be better people - people that both
we and our society can be proud of – because we are all part of our society whether we like it or not. If you start getting a lot of feedback about being a "hateful" person or a "nosy" person or a "selfish" person or a "judgmental" person, then you need to honestly take a step back and realise that there might be something to those claims. You need to realise that, yes, that may be "who you are," but do you really want to be known as "that hateful bitch/bastard who can't stop ranting about religion/politics/that movie/etc" or "that narrow-minded religious zealot who won't stop shoving his/her belief down everyone's throats"? That may be who you are, but you can change. Character is not fully set in stone - trust me on this. If you make the effort, you can change.
There are people who would ask "Why is it so 'bad' to be a hateful person when it isn't 'bad' to be a pleasant person?" I, personally, find this question irrelevant. Hate, in the end, is not good. Dislike is fine. Hate is corrupt. We can't help hating some things, we can't fully diminish hate, but we should not base our lives off it. I cannot understand why anyone would want to be known as a hateful person. And, sorry, but it seems to me hateful people are just a little bit selfish. In the end, hate ruins people's days. It can ruin lives. It makes everything seem meaningless and trivial and sour. And this is not only an effect upon the "hateful" but also on anyone who encounters said hateful people. This is, in the end, the main reason I even made this stamp. Because of hate. Yes, the over zealous opinions of fans/believers/politicians/etc is incredibly annoying, but it usually does not become an issue, to me personally, until said fans/believers/etc become hateful to people who have differing opinions. It all trails back to the fact that hate is not good, and it effects more than just the "hater." I became increasingly frustrated seeing so much "hate" around me - trivial hate, inconsequential hate, hate that does nothing whatsoever to this world and our humanity except blacken the day. It is trivial
. Hate of a religion, or a political party, or a book, or a fanbase, or a style of art - there's no reason for it. None at all.
So why the hell is there so much of it?edit .v
Sorry again, but I feel I should clarify the above paragraph a bit, in response to a comment made by !Forever-Missing-Nin
. I have to agree that my reasoning above seems a bit lacking, and I tried to re-explain myself as best I could to her. And, I figure, some other people might like a "clearer" picture; so, as not to continue with the confusion, here's a copy/paste of my response:
You bring up some very solid fallacies of my argument
I’ve got to admit, I’m a bit of a hypocrite, telling people to state their opinions with respect and then coming right back round to state my own in a very blunt, haughty, and rigid manner – dictatorial, as you stated.
I have to agree that a person’s loves and hates do not fully define their character – it would be foolish to assume such; as you said, people have more dimensions than simply like and dislike. But you cannot deny that their hates and loves do define a good bit of who they are as a whole. For instance, if someone greatly hates, say, a political party or a place – loathes it to Hell – you would definitely contribute that into your overall assessment of his or her character. Likewise, if someone overly and overtly displays their different dislikes – their different “hates” – would you not wonder why said someone focuses so much on the negative, and why they are so public about it?
I don't believe that hating is unnatural and should not be a part of humanity. I honestly feel that hate greatly contributes to what makes us "human." I suppose I should reword that last paragraph - I do not feel hate in and of itself is corrupt. But it does, generally, make us narrow-minded towards whatever it is we happen to hate. And that is what I find corrupting about hate - that it has a near direct correlation with narrow-mindedness and intolerance.
I suppose my biggest "beef" with hate is that I feel it is private and it is not something to be slapped around lightly. Of course, this is opinion, I fully admit to that, and it's based on my nature of being a private person in general. But I have to say it is simply infuriating beyond belief to see so many people flaunt their hate. The infuriation grows when the "hate" is over something that seems so unimportant. And, granted, someone's idea of unimportant and important is completely prejudiced. But still. I find it hard to believe that someone could hate something like a book or a genre of music. Really, the “rant” in the artist’s comments isn’t directed towards people who truly have reason to hate something. It is directed to the people who, I feel, abuse the emotion for… well, I don’t really know why they abuse it. But it just seems like there’s an abundance of hate in the world and very little reason for it.
As to the world being “boring” – I am not looking to demolish hate. That would be a stupid endeavor. “Optimistic to the point of foolishness.” I fully believe that hate has its place in our society. But I also believe in tolerance and knowing when one is beginning to take his or her hate too far. And, as I said, I personally feel that most of the “hate” in the world is mere dislike, amplified by the “hater” for some reason I cannot fathom, and that could, if the “hater” tried, be subdued if he or she wished it.
Then again, this is all just my opinion based off what I’ve experienced. I fully agree that I could be the most ignorant person in the world edit .vi
You'd think I'd be hitting a word limit or something by now.
wrote a comment that I thought should be added to my ever growing essay. It's good to hear similar opinions worded by different people, I find, just as it's important to hear differing opinions.
"I've never understood people who go around spreading hate.
Do they think it's funny? I see "for the lulz" a lot, but I've never understood what was "lulzy" about it.
I have to admit, I have a pretty strong dislike for a lot of things. And I don't like it when people around me go on and on about it.
But getting mad over that is...pointless. So I try not to. If they like it, who am I to say it's wrong to?
I just wish people could get along...
Nobody is perfect, and we all get in fights sometimes, but it's something we should feel bad about, not something we should try to justify.
We can never rid the world of hate entirely, even if we wanted to.
But we humans can think beyond what we feel and consider other people's feelings as well. We have that ability, at least most of us, and we can act on it.
I guess some people just choose not to exercise it.
It is human nature to hate. But that is no excuse for spreading it, only for feeling it."
Also, sorry if I don't reply. I really would love to reply to every one, no matter how simple or complex the comment, or the opinions within. But time management can be a bitch xP
Also, I always feel uncomfortable when I reply to comments that are months old... so, usually, I don't, and then I feel bad for not replying at all x/